This is a important discussion and sometimes a difficult decision for couples to make.
We recently spoke with Newsweek regarding why couples may or may not choose to have children join the wedding.
The Newsweek article outlines a specific story of how conflict can occur from such decisions. We stand by all our couples and their decisions, we also agree it is their sole discretion to make the exceptions that are right for their family and friends and that should be possible without conflict and disrespect from others.
Hiring a #weddingplanner at the start of your wedding planning journey can help you navigate the communications with guests and often that is key in helping create a positive and well informed event for you and guests. Below is what we shared with Newsweek and their article that is based on a situation in
"Quite often couples will decide to not extend wedding invitations to children, or just a select few that are very close to the family.
Why Would You Might Not Invite Children?
The formality of the event is usually the most common reason. Some weddings are highly formal, and the presence of children may not align with the atmosphere you're aiming for. That ties in with disruptions, especially with young children. They might unintentionally disrupt a ceremony or reception with noise or needing attention. Another reason is venue space limitations, inviting children can mean fewer adult guests or uncomfortable seating arrangements. The safety of some venues (e.g., with pools, fireplaces, or open spaces) may not be child-friendly, making safety a concern. It is up to the couple to inform guests of their decision and it is up to the guest to follow that direction. To make this clear, simply state " Adult Reception Only" on the invitation and reiterating that on the wedding website. When designing your RSVP cards, only include the names of the invited adults. This reinforces the message without needing to make a direct statement. Example: “We have reserved __ seats in your honor.”
Approaching the subject with kindness and understanding will usually ensure your guests respect your decision." Jean Rivers, owner of Blue Llama Events
Newsweek Article:
Blue Llama Events strongly disagrees with the language and commentary by parties involved in the disagreement referenced in this article. We continue to support our clients in their decisions and communicate with guests in the most professional and appropriate manner.
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